Parent-Teen Communication
When children become teens, their earlier positive communication skills may suddenly "leave the building." Instead of reasoned requests and wise acceptance of limits, teens may react as if possessed when their desire is thwarted. Rather than compounding the loss of communication strategies and joining them in screaming and drama, consider refining your approach to see if you can get a different response. And while your urge may be to discipline or punish for such behaviors, try some of the approaches described below. If they don't work effectively, you can always consider consequences, reduced privileges and removal of your services.
The responses to the following questions are only meant as a way you might approach thinking about and communicating about your teen's behavior. It is not advice for your particular situation, nor can any "expert" know better than you do what will work in your family. Parenting is a remarkably intimate and individual process that has to fit for the parent and child, with adaptations for siblings and co-parents.
Sometimes, when we are confounded by our teen's behavior and choices, it is helpful to take a step back and consider how other families might approach a similar situation. But what we choose to do must be right for each of us according to our situation. Reflect on the situations below as you consider what might work best for you.
Even the smallest suggestion seems to set off my teen lately. He just told me to, "Get out of his life." We used to be so close and I miss him. What am I doing wrong? Read more...
I spend all my time lecturing my teen. Even I'm getting sick of hearing my voice! This isn't working, but how can I get her to finish her work? Read more...
My daughter just doesn't see any of her strengths lately. She is always comparing herself negatively to her peers and putting herself down. How can I help? Read more...
I think my 15-year-old son is viewing porn. How do I confront him? Read more...
My teen has such an attitude lately! Nothing I do or say is okay with him and sometimes he's quite rude. I've really had enough! What should I do? Read more...
My teenager is always angry! I know it's a bad idea but I give in to her just to get her to stop yelling. What can I do? Read more...
Kaaren Borsting
PCI Certified Parent Coach
www.SageParenting.com
(541) 261-3729
